I am scared, and I am alone. She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. I have been inspired by people here and I want to share my experiences with everyone as well! My intention was to describe the difficulty while remaining brief. Debbie, Hi Anne thank you for commenting. Honestly, I don't think this letter is helpful, or should have been addressed to the children of BPD's for a few reasons. My surroundings have left me feeling like there is no hope, because no one wants to help. So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. It is inspiring and a ray of light to those of us who have a loved one with BPD to remind us that is just an aspect that can be overcommed to let us live in full the beauty of life. This letter might help on the explaining part, but the latter? I also see your side and know you must have been through alot with her and you have to protect yourself and your family. Thanks. Debbie,I just LOVE LOVE LOVE your honesty and compassion. Click to enable/disable _gat_* - Google Analytics Cookie. It was so overwhelming that is when they diagnosed me with severe depression and panic disorder after taking a long test and seeing several drs. She loves her, she wants her to be happy, but to be verbally, emotionally and even sometimes physically abused, she can't be always 'there' for her. I think you are the first Norwegian to tell me about her BPD blog. They have a higher risk of suicide and self-destructive behavior. Due to security reasons we are not able to show or modify cookies from other domains. My friend is having a sense of impending doom. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. Maybe there is hope or support out there but i can't figure out how to know who deserves it and who doesnt and if i try think about it i just panic and get nowhere, make things worse, so i was wondering what your thoughts are as this is obviously a subject you have much experience with. I tried to help her by pleading not to go back to the guy after he choked her (!!!) I thank you for writing this. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. Thank you. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. Arlington, VA 22203, NAMI Required Disclosures For Written Solicitations. Its hard, and my life sucks.. My blog is aggis.wordpress.com, but its in norwgian, lol. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). Main Subjects:Caring for Someone with BPD,Events,Getting Help,Living with BPD,Research,BPD in the Media, Other Subjects: Advocacy, BPD Awareness Week, Couples and Families, Family Connections Course,National BPD Conference, New Member, Sanctuary Meetings, Treatment, Validation, What is BPD. I wish you peace. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. Please trust that, with professional help, and despite what you may have heard or come to believe, we CAN and DO get better. Every single time you bring me back down when I'm fighting through a trembling and breathless panic attack that makes absolutely no sense to you. heartbroken77 Consumer 0 Posts: 12 Joined: Wed Nov 25, 2009 4:23 am Local time: Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:16 am Blog: View Blog (0) Please give yourself time and hold on in hope. It can be really difficult to know how to cope when someone has emotion dysregulation issues and is incredibly emotionally sensitive. Learn how your comment data is processed. It's sad that I would have to use our son as an instrument to get my wife in front of a mental health professional, but it is the only way I can see him being protected from the long term effects of this mental illness. The disregard/disbelief. BPD is also sometimes known as 'emotionally unstable personality disorder', but even that label feels somewhat prejudiced to me. I have no nearby friends. , I agree with your insights and appreciate that you took the time to comment here. The intensity with which you felt those emotions is probably equivalent to what a person with BPD feels on a regular basis. I hope to afford continuing to see my therapist. I have watched you over the course of our relationship walk over many mountains. Encourage self-care. He told me about the diagnosis of PD but we never discussed it. Happy for you both. We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. . Thank you for your kind comment. 1. I STRUGGLE to focus. Harder than playing the guitar to 3000 people. A, The mind is very complex. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! I feel forsaken by both her and the hospital that is supposed to be helping her, but has instead ruined our marriage. I loved this!!! You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. Another thing you may have noticed is that spaced out look on our faces. My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. Live life to the fullest. But he has so little insight. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. The case workers I had treated me no better. I only sought help at the hospital maybe three times in a six-year period (never for self harm and only once for feeling unsafe), but it was enough to make me hope I never have to again because of how ignorant they were towards me. I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. There is no one in this area who practices DBT. Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. I'm very grateful for his letter, Christine. We're currently in the middle of another episode as I write this. Enough said. I NEVER RELAX. He pushes me away but I can hear his cry for help. The most inspiring thing about what she said is that Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) recently came out as having BPD! She also has recently gotten more busy and a tighter finical situation. Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? Its important that we stay safe and not hurt you or ourselves. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. Sometimes I hate him. Even our perception that abandonment is imminent can cause us to become frantic. Can you get it without having a BPD Dx on your file? You know what it's like, in a way that no therapist does, to live with BPD day in and day out. I tried to be responsible. My mother does want to help her, but she won't help herself. please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior. This is coming from the mouth of the same guy who proposed to me last year. A normal life can be had. Needless to say, it hasn't been easy for either of us. I'm always fascinated and encouraged to see persons with BPD who accept the diagnosis and are embracing treatment. being transgendered i was unable to get appropriate medical help because i was told my gender disphoria was "identity disturbance". Your lack of emotional control leads you to damage your relationships, leading people to walk away from it, which exacerbates the abandonment issues that are a part of your disorder. Open Letter To All With BPD A.J. I held on to you so tightly then, and I still do now because, to me, you are the answer, you are the only person in the world. I feel like he doesn't understand that it's a process it will take a long time. He said many times that he wanted to show me love and treat me right but he thinks that his selfishness and pride are preventing him to do so. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful . I myself work in the mental health field and see her mental health declining. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. But one didas did my therapist. I am a mess. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle to understand how wives, husbands, friends, and other family members experience their intense reactions, mood swings, and risky behavior. Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. I have read through a lot of your blog and so much of it sounds like me. I am so torn. But this will always prompt you to accept/refuse cookies when revisiting our site. BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! Symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) at work can vary, including the different ways that these symptoms can affect your job performance and ability to "fit in" with your coworkers. Dave M everything that you wrote is what I'm going through at the moment. Shows that YES there is hope and not only have you found it but, you have it held tightly in your grasp!! I got therapy, I asked for help and got it. She feels fully justified in treating my mother with all sorts of nasty abusive language and accusations. Debbie, Hi Kat thank you so much for sharing. Life can be hard for all of us at times, and if you are struggling with the problems that face people with BPD then it can get really tough. My wife got me a book back in 2004 called Walking On Egg Shells that has helped me so very much. Additionally, the structured environment and clear communication skills required in event planning can help individuals with BPD manage their emotions and improve their interpersonal skills. My family "tolerates" me. Its as if we havent outgrown that. I suspect that if she were to sit across from a psychologist she would be able to fool them, but I am about to test that. BPD: Why Do We Get Triggered By TV, Movies, and Books? Now she teaches DBT, has written several books and has a blog called, Previous post: Finding peace amongst the turmoil, An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do, this blog (Healing from BPD by Debbie Corso), Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering, Do things to take care of YOU. They are conditioned to see the behavior as normal and often times they are terrorized by the behavior. She is a wonderful Woman and I love her with all my heart, my life, my everything. You deserve to feel safe. Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. Thank you, and may the knowledge you acquire now help you to build a life worth living from here and forward. She is educated and successful, and to all the other people in her life, except for close family, she seems confident and put together. I am not really able to offer guidance, as I am just a peer with the BPD diagnosis, but as I've recommended to another reader, you may want to contact Amanda Smith of Hope for BPD at: (941) 704-4328. over the years I couldn't figure out why I did the thjngs I did and people dealing with my behaviors would always resort to calling me crazy. I've been told I would always be this way, I would always be Borderline, always end up messing up my life, always needing care for my psycological issues. This is an example of how manipulative people with BPD can be. I dont want to live without her but it is hard to live with her if there is not some hope of improvement at her hipersensitivity, overreactions, constant blame and white and black thinking. This is my second year in DBT. Unskilled borderline sufferers can be a lot to handle and some BPD behaviors necessitate separation. For some of us, we had childhoods during which, unfortunately, we had parents or caregivers who could quickly switch from loving and normal to abusive. If you are serious about hurting yourself, I need to ask you to please get medical attention right away. I think these blogs are more educational than a generic medical article about BPD. If only we all got it laid out like this. Shrug. None. If you refuse cookies we will remove all set cookies in our domain. Mahari, a Canadian woman and Life Coach now 52 years old, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago writes an open letter to all who have been, as she was at the age of 19, diagnosed with BPD. From 1947 to 1965, the state was known as the Romanian People's Republic (Republica Popular Romn, RPR).The country was an Eastern Bloc state and a member of the Warsaw Pact with a dominant role for the . , Rainbow, I am so pleased and happy that this letter will be helpful to you. I have never sought treatment (aside from counseling) for my BPD, because mostly group therapy is suggested and the last thing I want to do is talk to a bunch of strangers about my problems . Spot on insight!! She attends a DBT Centre twice a week. I wish to God it would stop. BPD symptoms can include complex and unhealthy thought processes, anxiety, poor self-image, and dramatic mood swings. Hugs! And to help others like you do! I shouldn't have apologised, and this time I won't. The hardest thing about tonight's episode is that I don't know how long it will take for her to recover. BPD, Ghosting, and Abandonment Issues WHEN A PERSON WITH BPD IS GHOSTED It can be incredibly difficult when someone suddenly disappears or "ghosts" from your life especially once you've risked your heart, allowed yourself to be vulnerable, and have become emotionally attached or invested. I started to believe that. What stands out for me is HOPE! BUT I AM EXHAUSTED. People with this type of BPD may appear: Charismatic Energetic Elusive or detached Flirtatious Engaging or motivating Some example behaviors include: 1 I suspect that my ex-wife is BPD, but I am at a loss to deal with it because she is completely unaware. ~ Dave M. This comment has been removed by the author. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. However, it's my belief that the letter does little to help the children of borderlines. Thank you so much for sharing.You have so many people you need to reach.If only I could help in some way. I wish I had read this 6 year's ago. I plan on finding someone who does DBT in my area. We fully respect if you want to refuse cookies but to avoid asking you again and again kindly allow us to store a cookie for that. Instead, despite how I dread to say this, I am an outlet for her fears, insecurities and blame. Ask questions. It appears you entered an invalid email. I am sorry you didn't feel loved. (BPD & The Internet), The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner by Amanda Smith, LMSW, Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. These are a few of the words that have been used to describe individuals suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Debbie now teaches the DBT skills that helped change her life over at. No one is perfect and no one has life figured out, we are all troubled in some way. But I'm learning how to deal with it, thanks in part to resources such as this open letter. My own experience with my BPD mother was one in which my father, siblings and I were often blamed for her erratic behavior and unstable feelings. A certain song, sound, smell, or words can quickly fire off neurological connections that bring us back to a place where we didnt feel safe, and we might respond in the now with a similar reaction (think of military persons who fight in combat a simple backfiring of a car can send them into flashbacks. Why? If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might have experience with being called "obsessive.". , I'm a 39 yr old wife and mother of a beautiful babygirl of 19 months. But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. Thanks for sharing. I find it so hard to put into words my struggles but you have done it perfectly. I would be very pleased to share it with you. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. My mother talks to her and says she doesn't even sound like the person we used to know. Tonight I started to think: Maybe he's just giving me time to cool down after the last contact we had, and then he'll be in touch. Dating someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be difficult at times, but it doesn't have to be something that harms your relationship. But first I know I need, and I want to get better. If there is a problem with our website, please contact us here, 2023 Sanctuary Support Group | Designed by, Debbie Corso had BPD and has recovered. The most ironic thing is: I went to school to be a counselor. this was so encouraging. Love, Andrea, You are so welcome, Heather. If you make plans, try to keep them, or offer a clear reason why you can't. Make sure you're not blowing hot and cold. My wife tried to take her life 16 days ago. Mental health Carers Helpline. Deal with the label in a way that makes sense to you. Thank you for sharing especially during your own struggles. I got my diagnosis when i was 18. I'm usually pretty good at keeping my head, and not fighting back, whenever she does this. Your mind, your body, are completely taken over and you end up doing something you regret deeply but have to live with. . Debbie, Dave, thank you so much for taking the time to comment. wow. I feel like when i want to say something my mouth just won't move. I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to Scream at the both of them saying how the hell can you both do this!!!!???? Thank you, and best wishes for the future. I've had many pschiatrists and most never mentioned BPD. He left me nearly 4 weeks ago.It's over now. We can learn how to stop sabotaging our lives and circumstancesand we can learn to behave in ways that are less hurtful and frightening to you. Don't expect me to ever open up to you again." It was good to find your site. I admire all of you, everyone of you, that can speak out! Share your story, message,poem, quote, photo or video of hope, struggle or recovery. Otherwise you will be prompted again when opening a new browser window or new a tab. I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. That can make you act erratically. I am sorry for giving you a false perception of reality. It's a long road we all will travel. I know it always comes out wrong. I wish I knew more about BPD before my wife left..I miss herwish I could have done more. I buried and oppressed all my feelings and emotions inside because I was afraid of ruining the one thing I had that made me feel slightly better, our family you and the children. Dear Debbie, i am so glad that i found you letter. It makes a difference for us!! Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. Over the years after I turned 18, I was treated pretty bad as well by case workers I had and ER nurses and psych nurses because I also had an eating disorder. I am having to learn what triggers, when she splits I have currently moved out of my home where she and her boyfriend live, as she had a major melt a month ago. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. NAMI My dad likely has BPD too because my mother lived through 30 years of marriage with this. I know its because you had to. Now that we are divorced with a shared custody agreement for our son, she has become impossible to deal with. I promise you I wanted to be the man you knew, and I desperately wish we could put things back together. We may request cookies to be set on your device. Every single time you pick me back up when I'm shattered into pieces on the floor. Check this out. DBT stories from people around the world recovering from BPD. I think it's easy to ignore these symptoms because unless the BPD is totally irrational, the symptoms can be blown off as just overly emotional or a hard to deal with personality. Try to deny it. The author of this letter has since RECOVERED from Borderline Personality Disorder and no longer meets the criteria for a BPD diagnosis. Click to enable/disable Google Analytics tracking. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. Its not your fault. One of the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder is an intense fear of being abandoned, and we therefore (often unconsciously) sometimes behave in extreme, frantic ways to avoid this from happening. If it was just a figure of speech, please know that you can make choices to take care of YOU and to prioritize which relationships come first in your world. I have found some wonderful resources but they are all for the person affected by the BDP subhuman (heh). She often tears into me at the slightest provocation (one night a couple of weeks ago, for example, she said she needed some time alone, and locked herself in our bedroom. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. I did get committed here. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. He will say that he knows that I love him but he isn't sure if he loves me and that he might be the one who'll give up. I never agreed with the diagnosis either for myself and realized I actually have complex PTSD. My wife said that now that IOP has ended she is taking one PTSD class a week. I am wondering what to do to help her. Their moods are so intense that they interfere with everyday life. Or if you don't deserve that because there is nothing for them to "understand" because i have no real excuse for being this weak pathetic crazy annoying and hurtful person? We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. Click to enable/disable Google reCaptcha. I am about to give birth to my first child and one of my baby's grandparents most likely has Borderline Personality Disorder (previously diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but many of us believe BPD is a more comprehensive explanation and DBT type therapy/interactions are the only things that have consistently had a positive impact). I wish you so much healing and hope as you continue on your journey. It's thought. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. She called asking for me to send her some clothes and stuff so she could relocate to a homeless shelter to take IOP. I am also a Type 1 Diabetic of 17 years. I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. I am grateful for this letter. Well I better get off this pitty pottyMy Daughter just called and she is Barking also. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. I am going to send him this link and I hope he reads it and it helps him to understand that I'm not a monster but instead struggling with a disorder. BPD expert and author, Randi Kreger, likens it to "having 'aural dyslexia,' in which they hear words and sentences backwards, inside out, sideways, and devoid of context.". Whenever that happens it takes her many days to recover, during which periods she will vacillate between seeming to be okay, and seething, and saying things like "I don't trust you. She's 30 years old. I am very glad that your husband is open to supporting you and hope that the letter helped. Who would want ME? Another thing that you may find confusing is our apparent inability to maintain relationships. I can't help it. In the past when she gets to busy she ends up in the hospital. My significant other felt the same way as yours that therapy was a waste of time and money, until I finally showed progress and began getting better through DBT. There is a FUTURE, just DONT GIVE UP, be STRONG, get HELP. Write as much as you'd like, pour out your heart and soul and tell him how hurt you are and how much you didn't deserve such horrific treatment. Your email address will not be published. I have strong reasons to beleive my exfiance has BPD. I wish I could get my husband to read this. Doing a lot of reading keep reading things like don't get bogged down on the details, focus on her emotions, don't get defensive. Common triggers include rejection or abandonment in relationships or the resurfacing of a memory of a traumatic childhood event. An open letter to the children of a BPD parent should simply say, "I am so very sorry for hurting you. Thank you for being who you are. While these cries for help should be taken seriously, we understand that you may experience burn out from worrying about us and the repeated behavior. I just want to add another thank you for writing this. I have been diagnosed with BPD, Obsessive Compulsive PD, Histrionic PD, Avoidant PD, Dependant PD and Depressive. Click to enable/disable _gid - Google Analytics Cookie. Ironically, he was a doctor, a darn good one too if I might add.Now, having three daughters, I am struggling to find a way to explain to my girls that I love them despite the way I acted, and in dillema whether it's best to live apart from them for their sake since my BPD might influence their mental growth, and miss them or stay and make matters worse. I did drink, but it always leads me to dangerous places. Debbie, Hello NB thank you so much for your kind, insightful comment. In addition to learning more about BPD and how to self-care around it, be sure to do things that you enjoy and that soothe you, such as getting out for a walk, seeing a funny movie, eating a good meal, taking a warm bath whatever you like to do to care for yourself and feel comforted. It's not your fault. I like this letter. I have lost my best friend and the love of my life to untreated bpd and have been in agony while she instantly moved on. It will help many (like me) who haven't put all these beautiful words and explanations together in such a succinct and informative way.You should be very proud of this as you have quite a command of BPD and how to present it in a respectful and honest manner. Required fields are marked *. I don't know if I should or should not point out that she has an illness and thus a proclivity to feeling the way she does, without it being my fault. I am 26 years old, I live in Wichita, KS, and I live with my father because I cannot live alone. The letter F. An envelope. I believe we could work at our enmeshment together and make this work. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Some individuals with BPD tend to push limits, engage in risky behaviors, or seek stimulation in ways that are unhealthy. The relationship is different, the experiences are different, and the harm caused is different. 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