Does he allow you to look at his texts or does he whisper when he is in the phone sometimes? You dont need to find evidence to make it 100% certifiable. He spends less time fishing, going to the pool, skating and doing activities with our kids. After few months passed i heard the mother of his 2 children is pregnant for him. I have met her and she has apologized but I still dont trust her or him. Now yes we are in love and I know he wont leave me unless I left him but we fell so hard we moved into his mothers home now honestly he is on parole so he decided to stay at his brothers back home until he was off when I first came out here we stayed in contact and 2 weeks went by his mom and sister decided to go out there because of a birthday party. And that is a bad relationship. You need to find the strength and courage to decide what to do, even if its the last thing in the world you want. I checked his phone and under the nameJelly was a ton of disturbing messages and pictures! what can i do to find out if its true or it might be just a rumour. Love yourself! And i really cant get much lower. Please give me your advise.I think my husband has cheated on me with my sister-in-law.my signs are a strong gut feeling and i have seen him looking at her butt several times and and about 4 years ago my sis-in-law and my brother were our neighbors and my brother is a captain offshore so he was gone often.I came home one day and pulled up and my husband came out of there house and the only one that was home was my sis-in-law and my neice which was a baby about 9 months old.when i asked him why he was over there he said he went to see the baby.He has gone out of his way to help her we would have a party and she would be dancing and he would just stare at her.When i would asked him if he did anything with her he gets mad at me and has even cried.then he tells me keep it up just keep it up.So i told him i was going to ask her he got very defensive and said i would not do it because it is gonna cause problems and my relationship with her will never be tha same that i am gonna look stupid when we talk about it he always turns away from me and shakes his head.I did ask her and she said no way i would never do that but she also got caught cheating on my brother before i wonder sometime if that is why i feel this way.I told him i was gonna talk to my brother about it and he got very defensive he said because of my feelings that i am pushing him away so he turns everything around on me and makes me believe i have a problem.Do I?What can i do to stop this feeling how do i find out the truth because my gut will not let it go.They now will barely talk to eachother she still puts herself in his face but he is tryin to ignore her.But i still catch him looking at her body parts and then he tells me u can;t see through my eyes i was not looking at her body parts but my eyes do not lie to me and i know what i see.Me and him have been together since 94 and have 2 kids together so please let me know what u think about this and how i should go about finding out the truth even if i have to sneak around the truth and lie i need to know the truth or is he telling tha truth.Please let me know what u think am i crazy for feeling this way or am i just jealous or is it him that has a problem.Thank u, Well Im sure my story isnt any different, from the others. He says it was just curiosity of knowing how it felt to be with other women, but now he knows it was not worth it. I heard him say, I called you yesterday but you were out of it. Say thank you? Amy, thank you for being a voice of encouragement! I used to think I was in therapy because of how my parents treated me, or because my wife was emotionally abusive, or because she had cheated on me, etc, etc. His classmates referred to them as couples. Nancy, your Husband is cheating with the young lady. I have been married for 3 years. I have to do what is right for my kids. Forgive him. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. I am in some desperate need of advice before I start ripping my hair out of my head. Hes cheating and lying, and he wont change. Ive recently lost my third pregnancy in late December early January. Ive caught him on Facebook several times saying inappropriate stuff to other females. Paper conversation turned into i miss you and love you/ wanting you back i guess he wanted to feel wanted and needed by this women. I can tell by his tone on voice, eyes, sentences that make no sense, his posture. He got a promotion to the Region office in Atlanta (we lived in a southern state). I come from affluent well to do family were things were more about vanity and luxury. This is a decision only you can make. It sounds like your father is an abusive man in a stressful situation, which is making him behave even worse than normal. Knowing this my husband hurt me after all the hell Ive been through. He says he has told me everything after initially lieing. I always felt and believed in being faithful to your partner, and always told myself if anyone ever cheated on me I would waste my time with themyet here I am with him because I love him, and feeling miserable and paranoid at times when he is not with me. Ever since I was pregnant with my first child, he has called me horrible names like whore and slut. Okay, well then, my next question was where he slept if he didnt sleep with her? she strips and is not afraid to pleasure any man married or not in any way. He ran off with his best friends ex wife to Virginia in 2019 and would not answer his phone. Ami, Im sorry in my experience men and women cant be friends because you take away from his relationship with his wife. When you ask people for advice, you are asking them to judge your situation. What do I do? Love yourself. I know that my husband cheated on his 1st wife. Doesnt offer a ride to a nearby urgent care to have it checked out. Required fields are marked *. Dear Mam, I have been married for 8 yrs now and have two beautiful children. You need time to grieve the fact that your husband cheated on you and lied to youand then you have to think about what to do next. How to identify and fix relationship issues. Why arent wives DEMANDING to have the passwords to these phones? A few months went by, we were still talking here and there. I trust him. It doesnt matter why he behaves like this (though I believe men lie and cheat because its exciting, because they can get away with it, and because women want to believe what the men say, not what men do. The fact is that hes given up on trying to make things work. He had an indiscretion with a woman three years ago and we have since recovered. He has said over and over that he is taking our relationship seriously but I just learned that hes been texting another girl in what I consider an inappropriate manner for the past month or so (very flirtatious texts at all times of day, making plans to go to her house that he hasnt told me about, or alternatively him making excuses for why he cant go out that appear to be lies timed around when he was hanging out with me). Let me know. I have been keeping track of my husbands erectile dysfunction meds and today discovered one was gone and he is planning a business trip to Calgary. When we first started off. The women are also either married or in long term relationships with men whom they love; just as I love my wife. I am 44 years old we have been together for 26 years. Not fighting doesnt mean you have a healthy marriage. Please understand. I dont let him have power over me like he used to. 22/07/2017 19:18. WRONG second marriage I now have a 9 month old daughter with him. Hello, I dont know what to do I have been married 10yrs and it has not always been easy. I almost told him everything. There were just too many loose ends that were unexplainable or the excuses just didnt really make any sense. He said he emailed her afterward telling her I found the picture and they would not be contacting or emailing anymore. To focus on ME, and whats left of my life .. and Heal from this, all while knowing I am doing the most loving thing for ME. My prayer is that you rally the courage to find the answers that are in your gut, and that you become strong and wise enough to face what you know to be true before it causes more damage in your life. I had no idea what to think. I wasnt sure of the details but I know he deletes all texts and calls on his phone, hes told me so advice for wives, check the phone bills if you feel the need to if you see a phone number you dont recognize that is being called or text constantly, times you arent with them- thats suspicious, do some research on that. he will leave home at 8 to8.30 like tat. Then 4 months after that had an internet affair with another lady that is the mom of a girl in my 6 year old classroom at school she was totally obsessed with him to the point she went after me pretending she wanted to be with me, she offered him a three-some and sent him pictures of her with other ladies that her own husband took, I of course did not wanted anything with her and avoided her but her Obsession went so far that he finally told me everything about her that she was obsessed with him and not me. In my experience, cheaters rarely admit it, even when blatantly caught out. In fact hes always been a huge anti-cheater. You cant trust him because he is out for sex.. You sound pretty smart,so for your own piece of mind you should stay away from him. When a man lies He is likely to cheat. Hi, Lets make a deal You listen to what i have to say REAL carefully, and i will help you get your relationship issues together. My husband decided it was ok to drive in the car for 6 hours with his ex wife and son to and from and spend time at a concert for his other son. In his car, buy hidden gps tracker in amazon so you will check his location everytime. Then last year on Facebook, he met another longtime friend, which he sent Facebook messages to. his freinds are no saints. None of which we use together. I went back to the bar where we were going to for karaoke. I talked to his mom about it to and she claims i am jelouse of her. It seems to me the unpaid labour of a year was an affair. Im not one to share my emotions so this is a big step for me. And..he is responsible for his actions. Years later I told him that was the cruelest thing a partner could do their spouse! We had to get married and had our son 6 mos. He claims he learnt his lesson and he doesnt want to lose me. If you get healthy and whole again you may actually be able to figure out what a healthy one (man) looks like. My fiancee is cheating me with his so called ex wife. If your suspicions are not confirmed, breathe and live on together. Or we plant the idea of cheating in their heads, and they go ahead and cheat because we kept talking about it or accusing them of cheating. But didnt sleep with her. I dont see us ever getting merried, because hes never there for me, or our son. He apologized, said he doesnt want to date her or anyone other than me and that he will stop talking to her and make it clear that nothing will happen. And, you think someone who wants to cheat on his wife is a valued friend? I told him he should have wished her good luck on her last day at work with her surgery and that should have been it.I asked him how many men who come through that line everyday called her to see how she was doing and they probably have been knowing her just as long or longer than he has. Just give it a try, what would it hurt? It might seem obvious, but before you phone up that divorce lawyer, you're going to want to make sure that you have a cheating partner. to him he loves me but cannot do anything to please me,he calls me a controller anytime i confront him about anything.now i am almost due for delivery of our first child and all he does is to stay out the whole day and go clubbing at night.he claims he does business even in the night and will probably have no money for us when he stops his night escapades. (he knew how they hated me so used them as an escape). I thought I knew him: this is my husband on work stress. I dream about her weekly, the fighting with my husband is more frequent than ever. With that being said, I took what he said and sort of believed him. Its a terrible situation to be in. I cant tell you if you should leave him, or if hes cheating. I have been with my husband for almost 3 years, we have had our ups and downs but we still find away to work it out. I found condoms in his shaving kit which of course he tried to say theyve been there for years. He controls my every move. He then walked off into another room. How are is it so sure? I love him so much and I dont want to leave him but no matter what I say he wont stop talking to women on craigslist. When an ex wants you back, his return is more likely to look like a whimper rather than a roar. So, if you are going to forgive him then do it. Y E S! Marriage success is build on trust. He admitted he called her the next day. I stay with him because hes good to me despite him refusing sex during our rough patch. April, your response to this woman was perfect! You need substantial evidence. Ask Yourself if You Want to Stay Married. You also cant guarantee that you can trust your husband forever. He is some what awkward in things, but over all, people enjoy his company except they always ask me..why is he so quiet? No more! 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